We have not been taught how to speak. In fact, we have been taught how to not speak – how to cover our emotions with things like “I’m tired” or “I’m sick.” The excuses everyone else gives to strangers and acquaintances we give to friends, family, to our face in the mirror.
We’ve been taught how to believe our own lies. We’ve been taught that we can’t even trust our own emotions, and we’ve been taught how to leave them completely unexamined. So when we finally do speak, we’re venturing into the unknown, onto uncharted land. We are expressing emotion that we will probably take back and reassert as something else. We are putting words to experiences that we have never had vocabulary for. We are trying to express things there are no words for.